Build Up and Affirm Her!
You and I have a powerful tendency to act in a manner consistent with how we see ourselves. This inner mirror is called our self-concept. Of course our wives have a self-concept that directs their behavior as well, both inside and outside of the marriage relationship. The self-concept of your wife is heavily influenced by what you say to her as well as how you say it.
For the next 24 hours take a quick inventory of the words you speak to your wife. Will any critical words pull her down? Or will your positive words lift her up? It is a choice that you make during every interaction with your mate. Once a woman is married, no one on the planet has such an influence on her self-concept than her husband.
Given this tremendous influence, you can either bolster her potential with your words or you can weaken it. One of the fastest ways to boost the quality and closeness of your relationship is through purposeful praise and affirmation. Affirm your wife today (whether or not you feel like it), as if your most wonderful expectations had already been met. After all, anyone can praise after the fact, but you can take an active role in your wife's growth when you affirm her in advance. This shows you believe in her and are her greatest champion. Speak to your wife as she is today and she will remain as she is. Speak to her as she intends to be, and she will heed the call. When your wife feels terrific about herself, everybody in the family wins!
Find out how your wife wants to grow as a wife, mom, and friend over the next year. Then, shower her for thirty days with the praise and affirmation consistent with who she is striving to become. Write a positive message on the bathroom mirror. Leave notes in her car and under her pillow. Call her during the day. Make her day with a special voice mail. Encourage her with the messages she wants and needs to hear. Mail her a note of appreciation. E-mail her with a few of the reasons she is so special to you. Remind her before she falls to sleep that she gets better everyday. With continuous praise and affirmation, you will bring out the best in your wife!
Tommy Newberry is head coach of The 1% Club and author of Success is not an Accident www.tommynewberry.com
For the next 24 hours take a quick inventory of the words you speak to your wife. Will any critical words pull her down? Or will your positive words lift her up? It is a choice that you make during every interaction with your mate. Once a woman is married, no one on the planet has such an influence on her self-concept than her husband.
Given this tremendous influence, you can either bolster her potential with your words or you can weaken it. One of the fastest ways to boost the quality and closeness of your relationship is through purposeful praise and affirmation. Affirm your wife today (whether or not you feel like it), as if your most wonderful expectations had already been met. After all, anyone can praise after the fact, but you can take an active role in your wife's growth when you affirm her in advance. This shows you believe in her and are her greatest champion. Speak to your wife as she is today and she will remain as she is. Speak to her as she intends to be, and she will heed the call. When your wife feels terrific about herself, everybody in the family wins!
Find out how your wife wants to grow as a wife, mom, and friend over the next year. Then, shower her for thirty days with the praise and affirmation consistent with who she is striving to become. Write a positive message on the bathroom mirror. Leave notes in her car and under her pillow. Call her during the day. Make her day with a special voice mail. Encourage her with the messages she wants and needs to hear. Mail her a note of appreciation. E-mail her with a few of the reasons she is so special to you. Remind her before she falls to sleep that she gets better everyday. With continuous praise and affirmation, you will bring out the best in your wife!
Tommy Newberry is head coach of The 1% Club and author of Success is not an Accident www.tommynewberry.com
posted by Drew Dyck at 1:11 PM
1 Comments:
This article gave me the reminder that I needed to realize how great a wife I have. After 26 years of being together we (men) tend to get careless about what matters to our wives. Thank you.
Gregg Ryan
Wilmington, DE
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