"The Dangerous Path Leading to Infidelity"
Last week I read a comment on the New Man Web site that made my heart sink. It was a letter from a woman requesting more articles about the “dangerous path leading to infidelity.” The reason for her request? Her husband seemed to be treading on dangerous ground.
First, the woman wrote of what had been, until recently, been a wonderful marriage. The couple enjoyed regular lunches together and had a healthy love life.
But then something changed. Her husband began opting out of their lunches, and choosing instead to spend time with his beautiful 19-year-old secretary. When the wife asked him to have lunch with her again he turned “ugly.”
“I'm praying,” she wrote, “hoping he'll be too satisfied with my words and actions to go elsewhere. But I'm scared.”
Hopefully this woman’s suspicions about her husband are not founded. Unfortunately they quite likely are. If her husband hasn’t already cheated, he’s probably well on his way. I told her that her plan of just being kind to him wasn’t enough. She needs show him some tough love by confronting him about his behavior.
But I would reserve my strongest words for him and other men headed toward marital unfaithfulness. The first step on the road to adultery is the easiest. Most guys don’t wake up one day and decide to commit adultery. It usually starts small. You now what kind of stuff I’m talking about it. Flirting with a female co-worker. Looking too long at an attractive woman. Spending too much time alone with a member of the opposite sex.
If that’s you I urge you to stop immediately. The path to infidelity is downhill and slippery. Before you know it, you’re sitting at the bottom with your life in ruins. Today you have the choice to stop. Tomorrow your options may be much different.
First, the woman wrote of what had been, until recently, been a wonderful marriage. The couple enjoyed regular lunches together and had a healthy love life.
But then something changed. Her husband began opting out of their lunches, and choosing instead to spend time with his beautiful 19-year-old secretary. When the wife asked him to have lunch with her again he turned “ugly.”
“I'm praying,” she wrote, “hoping he'll be too satisfied with my words and actions to go elsewhere. But I'm scared.”
Hopefully this woman’s suspicions about her husband are not founded. Unfortunately they quite likely are. If her husband hasn’t already cheated, he’s probably well on his way. I told her that her plan of just being kind to him wasn’t enough. She needs show him some tough love by confronting him about his behavior.
But I would reserve my strongest words for him and other men headed toward marital unfaithfulness. The first step on the road to adultery is the easiest. Most guys don’t wake up one day and decide to commit adultery. It usually starts small. You now what kind of stuff I’m talking about it. Flirting with a female co-worker. Looking too long at an attractive woman. Spending too much time alone with a member of the opposite sex.
If that’s you I urge you to stop immediately. The path to infidelity is downhill and slippery. Before you know it, you’re sitting at the bottom with your life in ruins. Today you have the choice to stop. Tomorrow your options may be much different.
posted by Drew Dyck at 4:14 PM
3 Comments:
As a man who has fallen, been forgiven by God, and again earned my wife's trust and heart I agree with you that the wife needs to voice her concerns. Infidelity like Faith is a matter of choice, but a man needs to know that his actions are noticed and have consequenses. To the wife I would say, if you are silent out of fear, then what you fear will probably come to pass. Ask the Lord for the words to speak, and then turn your husband over to the God and trust God to deal with him. My wife did that with me; let me tell you it is not pleasant to have God dealing with you.
God bless you.
Dennis - Florida
Like Dennis, I to have fallen,What I did happened 20 years ago. Thanks be to God for His mercy and grace,My wife has forgiven me and we have been together for 25 years now. To the wife please keep praying for your husband and God is faithful to answer your prayers. Please also when God forgives him please you forgive him even though it is painful the healing process will start sooner.
To the man who might be thinking about this DON'T the pain of seeing your wife go through this is not worth it; not to mention you are also grieving God's heart. Please do not let selfishness run your life. Let God guide your path,life will be better.
I choose to stay anonymous because this is all still fresh...I was told to read this article by my husband. I am a wife who has committed adultery and let me just say that it is ONLY because of God's grace, mercy and UNCONDITIONAL love that I am still married now. To the wife who maybe fearful to address this with her husband...DON"T BE!! You must take a stand and authority in the spirit to talk to your husband. My husband took a passive role and that did not help the situation at all. As I think back to the situation in my life I believe that it is important to confront the person who you believe is attempting to be unfaithful. Prayer is also essential and we must remember that are weapons are not carnal. 2 Corinthians 10:4-6 says "For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal but mighty in God for pulling down strongholds, casting down arguments and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ, and being ready to punish all disobedience when your obedience is fulfilled." That being said talk to your spouse and inform him of your concerns and issues and PRAY. God is faithful and JUST. Be encouraged.
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